Showing posts with label Aspiration. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Aspiration. Show all posts

Monday, August 4, 2025

Kdrama Review : Blackdog - Being A Teacher

Hi readers! time for Kdrama review. 
 
A good drama titled Blackdog : Being A Teacher. Previously available in Netflix, but now no more, already taken out.


Genre: Drama, School, Slice of Life
Episodes: 16
Aired: December 2019 – February 2020
Starring: Seo Hyun-jin, Ra Mi-ran, Ha Joon

Black Dog follows Go Ha-neul (Seo Hyun-jin), a temporary teacher at a private high school. Newly hired, she quickly learns that teaching is only part of the job. From navigating school politics to supporting students chasing university dreams, she must find her voice and purpose in an often indifferent system. Alongside the experienced and idealistic Park Sung-soon (Ra Mi-ran), Ha-neul grows both professionally and personally. 

💥What Makes "Black Dog" Stand Out

✅ Realistic Portrayal of the Education System

This is not your typical high school K-drama filled with romance and rebellion. Instead, Black Dog presents a grounded, almost documentary-like look at South Korea’s hyper-competitive academic world—especially the invisible struggles of teachers. You’ll see exam pressures, contract employment, staff politics, and moral dilemmas faced by educators.

✅ Character-Driven, Subtle Storytelling

The drama excels in its quiet intensity. There is little melodrama. Conflicts build slowly and resolve realistically. It focuses on small wins, daily choices and ethical challenges that feel deeply human. Ha-neul’s growth arc is subtle yet powerful—highlighting personal integrity in a system designed to wear people down.

✅ Standout Performances

  • Seo Hyun-jin delivers a deeply nuanced performance, portraying vulnerability, perseverance, and strength with quiet grace.

  • Ra Mi-ran, as the passionate and tough-as-nails mentor, brings warmth and bite. Her character, Park Sung-soon, is a standout—equal parts realist and idealist.

✅ Thoughtful Direction & Writing

The writing is intelligent and emotionally restrained. It avoids sensationalism in favor of empathy and realism. The directing complements this with muted tones, reflective pacing, and emphasis on workplace dynamics over dramatics.

 

💗Interesting plots in the drama 

Top students VS under-performing students

Black Dog explores this issue with surprising depth and subtlety.  In Black Dog, the favoritism isn’t always overt, but it’s systemic and nuanced, and that’s what makes it so believable. Teachers often gravitate toward students who are academically strong or well-behaved, especially in a school obsessed with college entrance rates.

How the Drama Portrays It

  1. Top Students Get More Attention

    • The school has a laser focus on getting students into top universities, so teachers naturally prioritize the high-achievers. These students receive better guidance, more resources, and even emotional support.

    • There’s a scene where lower-performing students are essentially written off—not maliciously, but because the system doesn’t have the time or incentive to invest in them.

  2. Teachers Struggle With Ethics

    • Characters like Go Ha-neul and Park Sung-soon are clearly aware of this imbalance. They often wrestle with whether to "play the game" to survive or push back and advocate for fairness.

    • Ha-neul, in particular, tries to give underperforming students a chance, even when the system subtly discourages it.

  3. Unspoken Hierarchies

    • Students internalize these dynamics. “Good” students feel validated, while others feel disposable. The drama doesn’t scream this—it just shows it through hallway conversations, subtle glances, and quiet frustration.

✅ Final Take

Black Dog doesn’t villainize teachers for favoring top students—it shows how the system almost forces it. But through characters like Ha-neul and Park Sung-soon, it also argues that small acts of fairness matter, even in a flawed system.

The drama’s power lies in that tension: between what teachers want to do, and what they’re allowed to do.
 
Teachers' generation gap 

Another interesting issue in this drama is the quiet but constant tension between veteran teachers and the new generation. It's portrayed with nuance, showing both sides as flawed and human, not simply right or wrong.

The veteran teachers are not villains. Many are simply burned out or institutionalized. They’ve seen reforms fail. They want survival, not ideals. 

The young teachers believe in the purpose of teaching, not just its process. They enter the system with hope but are quickly confronted by its flaws. 

This dynamic is one of Black Dog's most powerful themes. It shows how change doesn't happen through rebellion alone but through persistence, subtle influence, and small acts of integrity. 

🎯 Verdict

"Black Dog" is a quiet powerhouse of a drama. It’s honest, humane, and refreshingly mature. For anyone who values realistic workplace dramas, strong female leads, and social commentary—this is a must-watch. It's less about thrills and more about truth.

 

❌ What Might Not Work for Everyone

  • Pacing can feel slow for viewers expecting major plot twists or romance.

  • The school setting is administrative-heavy—more about meetings, curriculum planning and office politics than classroom antics or youthful romance.

  • Requires patience to appreciate character development, as it’s very gradual.

 

 Highly recommended for watching!!

Tuesday, May 22, 2018

The Malaysia that could be

Calling all Malaysians...

A wonderful speech that should be read by all Malaysians. May Allah Almighty bless our beloved country and its multi-racial citizen.

This speech by Dato Seri Kalimullah Hassan delivered during UTAR Convocation has been in my gmail inbox since 2010. Such an interesting and inspiring speech. 

AUG 21 — It is a great honor for me to be here today and I want to start by congratulating you and your families on your success.Although I did not  attend university — for a variety of reasons, chief being that we were not rich and that I was not smart enough to be given a scholarship — I have, every moment in my life, acknowledged the value of a college or university education. There’s always that tinge of regret in me
when I hear my friends speak of the fun they had in campus, the pranks they played, the girlfriends they met, the midnight oil they burnt during exams and the pride with which they took to the stage to receive their scrolls and enter the new phase in their lives.

Today, it is your turn to feel the pride of receiving your scrolls after having worked so hard. Today is a great day for you. You are young; you are raring to go; you want to make your name; you have dreams; you have hopes; you have your whole life ahead of you.

Many of us here on stage are in our twilight years. We have lived our lives as best as we could and made our mistakes along the way. Some learn from their mistakes; some don’t. It is those who learn from their mistakes who make it in life. For those of us in this twilight stage of life, time is a luxury we don’t have. But you, graduating students of UTAR today, you are on the fringes of a new beginning with all the time ahead of you.

The only thing that remains is for you to set your goals; work hard; believe in yourself; persevere; and God willing, one day, in the future, you will be able to say — I am proud of what I have achieved and I am proud of what I am.

 
Graduating students, respected audience, and friends:

As you prepare to go out into the world, I would like to share one thought with you. In my life, the one thing I have always been proud of is my belief that this is a great country which could be greater; and that I am proud to be a Malaysian — first and last.

Today, the theme of my message to you is that only you can decide how you are going to live and that it is you who will decide what your Malaysia, your future generations, and your world will be long after we are gone. At a time when Malaysia is seeing daily debates on race and religion, you have a heavy burden to bear; you, the young generation, will decide which direction Malaysia takes and I hope today, I can share a little of what our generation went through so you can learn from our mistakes and build on the right things we did.

While we learn from our own mistakes, we should also learn from history. Unfortunately, human beings are prone to forgetting history. Allow me to talk about one personality who has shaped many lives and changed the course of at least his country, the United States of America. I want to talk about the American civil rights leader Dr Martin Luther King Jr, a great man, who like us, had a dream. I want to talk about him because his thoughts have bearing on us as well.

Dr King died for his dreams but the whole world can continue to learn from him; especially us, a country that is multi-racial, multi-cultural and multi-religious; a country our founding fathers had hoped would symbolize the dream that they had; that was no different a dream from the dream Martin Luther King Jr had. I quote Dr King in one of his most famous speeches, where he spoke about his American dream. He said:

“I look forward confidently to the day when all who work for a living will be one with no thought to their separateness as Negroes, Jews, Italians or any other distinctions.

“This will be the day when we bring into full realization the American dream -- a dream yet unfulfilled;

“A dream of equality of opportunity, of privilege and property widely distributed; a dream of a land where men will not take necessities from the many to give luxuries to the few;

“A dream of a land where men will not argue that the colour of a man’s skin determines the content of his character;

“A dream of a nation where all our gifts and resources are held not for ourselves alone, but as instruments of service for the rest of humanity;

“The dream of a country where every man will respect the dignity and worth of the human personality.”

Today, more than 40 years after that speech, a black man is the President of the United States of America; a black man, it is proudly said, lives in the White House. Today, to a large extent, Martin Luther King’s dreams have come true in his country. Remember, even in the 1960s, after Malaysia had become independent, after the United States had been independent for almost 200 years, blacks and colored people were not allowed to eat at restaurants which were reserved only for white people; they could not drink from the same tap as the white man; they could not ride on the same bus as the white man; and in many parts of rural America, the Klu Klux Klan regularly lynched and killed blacks for sport. Therefore, America took major strides in civil liberties in the last four decades that countries throughout the world can learn from.

As I say this, today, I stand here and ask you — have the dreams of our founding fathers been fulfilled?

Some people say that it took the United States more than 200 years before the true American dream could be realized. They say we are a young nation, only 53 years old, and we should be proud of what we have achieved. Yes, we have achieved a lot. Yes, we never had the kind of discrimination and civil rights abuse as the United States had for more than 100 years. But that doesn’t mean we too should wait 200 years to realize the dream our founding fathers or we have.

I believe that if our founding fathers were looking over us right now, they would be proud to see the physical achievements of our country; but their hearts would break to see the path we have taken in addressing each other as fellow Malaysians. If they looked at the news; at what right-wing charlatans and extremist groups are doing and saying; at the daily racial baiting and taunting, they would weep.

And, no, we cannot wait for 200 years like the United States of America to expect change because today, the world moves at too fast a pace and we are already lagging. If we don’t change, then we will forever be known as the “the Malaysia that could have been.”

Once sleeping giants like China and India can transform themselves from two extreme ends of ideology — one the world’s largest communist country, the other, the world’s largest democracy — to seize the opportunities, and from slumbering giants, catapult themselves into the forefront of the world economy; countries once deemed backward like Indonesia and Vietnam are charging ahead; all around us we see that those who dare to take the brave step forward, move forward. So, no, we cannot afford to wait 200 years to realize our dreams of the “Malaysia that should be.”

Graduating Students

As you go out into the world today, your Malaysia is different from the Malaysia I grew up in. My Malaysia was the Promised Land; it was a Malaysia where our differences mattered so much less than our similarities and our shared dreams; it was a Malaysia where we ate at each other’s homes, where we played games together, where we grew up together and where we have remained friends even in the winter years of our life.

Your Malaysia is a different Malaysia. It is a Malaysia which, unfortunately, is today again struggling to find an identity, more than half a century after independence. It is a Malaysia where every day we find our differences accentuated. It is a Malaysia where it seems the spirit of family, of togetherness, of oneness is a spirit which only the twilight generation reminisces about.

My Malaysia was a Malaysia where we dreamed of venturing out, seeking opportunities and building our homes and prospering our country. Today, my Malaysia is a small part of a global village where opportunities abound in the world around us. In your new world, you are an international citizen, shackled only by the limits you set yourself.

In the year 2007 and 2008, almost half a million Malaysians left this country to work abroad. That, respected audience, is almost 2 per cent of our population — and probably accounts for more than five per cent of working professional and skilled Malaysians — a disturbingly large number for a developing country like ours.

A study by the Institute of Gerontology, University of Kuala Lumpur, showed that we are an aging country. The number of older non-working persons in Malaysia doubled from 1980 to the year 2000 from 700,000 people to almost 1.4 million; in 2020, it will be 3.4 million people. Against this backdrop, half a million skilled Malaysians of working age leaving the country is unsettling. Will we end up being a country of old people?

We can see the phenomena in many small towns and villages in rural Malaysia where the young have left for opportunities in the cities and abroad and their kampongs and home towns become dwellings of old folk. They build a new life and return perhaps for the annual festive holiday or balik kampong, and don’t look back again. Magnify that at the level of our country — if our young and skilled continue to leave for opportunities abroad, is it possible that we, too, could one day become a country for old men?

There must be reasons why Malaysians want to leave such a wonderful country. Could it just be diminishing opportunities here and better opportunities elsewhere? Unhappiness? Politics? Marriage? Discrimination? Or what?

It cannot be an easy decision to leave your country because we are, I am sure, all familiar with the saying: Hujan batu di negeri sendiri lebih baik daripada hujan emas di negeri orang.

How many times that I have been abroad on work or leisure for extended periods and I remember how lonely it feels after just a few weeks. That feeling of emptiness is real. And there have been times when I have been to certain countries ravaged by poverty or infighting and war; then, the only thing I want to do is literally kiss the ground the moment I land at KLIA. Why then are people leaving?

There was a time when people from other countries wanted to come to Malaysia because it was seen as a land of opportunity and a land of promise; a land of honey and sunshine; a land where dreams could come true. That, ladies and gentlemen, was my Malaysia, the Malaysia I grew up in.

It is still a great country, and we owe that to our founding fathers but it is a different Malaysia today; a sad Malaysia. In that respect, how could anyone fault you if you say our generation is to be blamed for giving you the Malaysia you inherit?

But please do not mistake what I am saying. I believe that Malaysia has very good people and God’s given treasures; we can still be a great country - but only if we work towards making it great.

Let me now talk about my Malaysia. I wonder how many of you are fans of Lat, the cartoonist?

Many of my generation grew up on Lat’s cartoons. He is an extraordinary human being who epitomizes the true Malaysian spirit which, I believe, our forefathers envisaged. In Lat’s cartoons we would always see the portrayal of Malaysian life where all Malaysians worked together, played together and lived together in harmony. But there was one cartoon by Lat two years ago which showed all his multi-racial characters huddled under an umbrella made out of the Malaysian flag; they were taking shelter from politicians, right-wing activists and chauvinists who spewed racial invective.

To me, it was a sad cartoon. It was a tragedy of the new Malaysia that we live in today. Two years after that cartoon, not much has changed. In fact, if anything, it has become worse.

Yes, it is true that it was not all glorious sunshine and camaraderie in our country since 1957; and yes, it’s true that we did live through the madness of May 13, 1969. But save for that stint of insanity in our history, we have largely had good years.

I want to remember the good things we had, the good friends we had and my story is not different from the story of most of us who grew up before and immediately after Independence. The childhood I had in my hometown Kroh (Pengkalan Hulu now) on the border with Thailand, and later in Penang, was similar to that of Lat in Perak.

Today, most of our childhood friends still keep in touch and though we do not meet regularly, we are still friends. You see that in Lat’s cartoons over the last three decades as he rolls out his own life story.

Where did we take that wrong turn in nationhood that we ended seeking refuge under the flag? When did racial baiting and taunting become an almost everyday affair?

My Dear and Respected Audience

I don’t think anyone of us can say when we started taking the wrong fork in the road to come to where we are today. Perhaps, the undue obsession with politics over the last decade, perhaps greater awareness of a generation unscarred by the hardships of a post-independence era, perhaps greater and more open access to information, and perhaps more awareness of civil rig
hts and liberties has contributed to accentuating differences. The question is - can we do anything about it? I believe we can.

As in everything, character is normally shaped in our formative years — at home, in our neighborhoods and in schools.

In the book Character-Building Thought Power the question is asked whether we have the power to determine at all times what types of habits shall take form in our lives. In other words, is habit-forming, character-building, a matter of mere chance, or do we have it within our own control? The answer is yes, we have, entirely and absolutely. Look at the case of the United States and Martin Luther King Junior. Would anyone in America have thought in 1960 that one day, a black man would be President of that great country and those minorities — blacks, Indians, Hispanics, Chinese and Jews — would occupy senior positions in Government? If there were any, it would have been the most optimistic of `human beings who would have envisioned that.

The book states that there is a simple, natural, and thoroughly scientific method to build character - a method whereby old, undesirable, earth-binding habits can be broken, and new, desirable, heaven-lifting habits can be acquired — a method whereby life can be changed, in part or in its totality, provided one has sufficiently will.

The key to it is thought. Everything you do, every conscious act, is preceded by a thought. Your dominating thoughts determine your dominating actions. Repeated actions crystallize into habit; and the aggregate of your habits is your character. In simpler language, practice makes perfect. If you practice negative acts, for example lying, stealing, cheating, it becomes natural to lie, cheat and steal. But if in your mind, you believe that lying, cheating and stealing are bad, are wrong, and you tend to do the opposite as much as you can, you will become a truthful, honest, do-good person.

It is a simple psychological law that any type of thought, if entertained for a sufficient length of time, will, by and by, reach the motor tracks of the brain, and finally burst forth into action. Murder can be and many times is committed in this way, the same as all undesirable things are done. On the other hand, the greatest powers are grown, the most God-like characteristics are engendered, and the most heroic acts are performed in the same way.

The thing clearly to understand is this: That the thought is always parent to the act. In other words, you are what you think.

Here let us refer to that law of the mind which says that whenever one does a certain thing in a certain way it is easier to do the same thing in the same way the next time, and still easier the next, and the next, and the next, until in time it comes to pass that no effort is required, or no effort worth speaking of; but on the contrary, to do the opposite would require the effort. It’s like playing tennis or badminton or football. If you learn to smash correctly, to lob properly, and do it again and again, you will never lose that skill. But if you don’t set your mind to it, and don’t practice, you will never get it right and always leave it to chance, or to a fluke shot.

Thus a simple effort to control one’s thoughts, even if at first failure is the result, and even if for a time failure seems to be about the only result, will in time, sooner or later, bring one to the point of easy, full, and complete control.

From the individual to the society; every earnest effort adds an increment of power that will eventually accomplish society’s objective.

Now, allow me to go back to that path we took in our road to nationhood that has led us to where we are today.

If we subscribe to the belief that thought leads to character building, then how we live with each other in a multi-racial, multi-religious society begins with us, at home, with our children, in the neighborhood we live and in the schools our children go to.

My wife and I grew up at a time when most parents strived to send their children to English medium schools. Although I come from a small rural town my late parents sent my two elder brothers to an English medium school in Baling, Kedah, more than 10 miles away. Today, that distance does not seem very much. But think back 1960 in communist infested jungles around Kroh, narrow winding roads, irregular bus service, not enough trained teachers and you will see what sacrifices our parents made to ensure we received a good and balanced education.

The character of schools was then different. The students were from all races and denominations; and let’s face it; children are the most innocent and least prejudiced beings in the world. They grow up accepting each other, no matter what their color, no matter what their religion. Those formative years formed our thoughts and our character and thankfully, most of us carried that on into our adulthood.

Our elders, too, were not as prejudiced, living with each other in mixed neighborhoods, accepting each other’s differences, each other’s cultures and each other’s different beliefs. Sure, it was not all hunky dory but they were, although poorer, a happier society.

But despite that, May 13 happened and it shattered the myth of one happy country and we tried to rebuild ourselves. We had campaigns in earnest such as the “muhibbah” campaign in schools; we had the Rukun Negara; we had Rukun Tetangga; our leaders strived to salvage our shattered dreams and we did recover, largely because it was a societal effort. But there was terrible cost to pay and many people migrated during that period, most, never to come back again.

Today, again, we seem to be taking the wrong path again – churches being burned, mosques and temples desecrated; right wing groups touting race over nationality, threatening those who don’t think like them, discriminating and differentiating…..

Today, as a parent of four grown-up and growing children, I want to state that despite trying to put all our prejudices aside, my wife and I found that there were occasions when we were shocked at the things that our children picked up in school. They would utter things in innocence which displayed prejudices we did not impart upon them. It was after a lot of soul searching that we concluded that in our schools today, children were separated because Chinese parents preferred to send their children to Chinese schools, where they felt the education system was better, and,
generally, Malay and Indian kids went to national-type schools. That has resulted in unintended consequences where bumiputras are the vast majority in national type schools and the Chinese, the majority in Chinese-type schools. In each environment, those outnumbered felt more comfortable within their own race group, their own silos, and some, across the spectrum, displayed the prejudices that their own parents had. There is something seriously lacking in our education system today; but unfortunately, change has not come despite all the negative fallouts where from young, our children are deprived of growing up in a true Malaysian environment.

Since my wife and I knew that we could not change the system, we asked what could we do?

I can tell you that it was not easy. We exposed the children to our friends, so much so that many of our old friends and their children, of different racial and religious backgrounds, are also today their friends. We encouraged them to learn about other cultures and other religions as much as we encouraged them to learn about their own religion. We have visited temples and churches in places we have gone to and we did not discourage them from sleeping over at the houses of their friends and vice-versa, no matter what religion, culture or race.

At times, we felt we were fighting a losing battle because growing up in 
the impersonal city is so different from the kampong or small towns where camaraderie is easier, where prejudices are less. But today, that the kids are adults or near adulthood, we are grateful that we persevered because they have grown up shedding prejudices and accepting people as people, rather than as Eurasians, Chinese, Malays or Indians.

It has also helped that there are many inter-racial marriages within our immediate and extended families and weddings and family get-togethers bring together our Chinese, Kadazan, Indian, Pathan, Iban and Malay relatives. But it has certainly not been a smooth ride because societal pressures have often threatened to derail our own dream of a one Malaysia.

When the kids were overseas — the two elder ones are back after graduating — my wife and I used to take them and their friends out for dinner. We enjoyed taking them out as well as listening to them talk, and marveled at their innocence, at their inability to grasp why people should look at each other and evaluate each other by race, religion or colour. They are idealistic but I wish that more of us shared this idealism.

Listening to the children and their friends, I often felt a great sadness because I knew that one day soon enough, they would finish their education, come home to Malaysia, and if things did not change, they, too, would eventually get a little influenced, become a little prejudiced and lose a little of their innocence.

They would find it a little disconcerting to be referred to by their race because overseas, they just find comfort in hanging out together; because in their mind, they are just Malaysians in a foreign land. They are not black. They are not white, yellow or brown. They are just Malaysians.

Maybe I have become too cynical but I often wonder what people would say if I were to ask them “what race are you?”

Take my nephew, Johan, for example. My brother’s wife is Chinese. Johan looks every bit a Chinese. What race is he? My wife is of Malay, Gujarati and Sinhalese descent. What race are our children? You will be amazed to know that because of this inability to determine what race we are, my children are deemed to come from different races, as stated on their MyKad.
 
My eldest is listed as a Pakistani; my second and youngest as Malays; and my third child as Indian. I refused to argue with the National Registration Department because as far as I am concerned, my kids are all Malaysians — first, second, third or last.

I can give you other examples. My friend Mervin is a Malayalee who grew up in Kuala Lumpur and Kuantan. He married a Kadazan from Tamparuli in Sabah. They are Catholics and they now live in Hong Kong, hoping to come back in a few years when he retires.

Their daughter, Natasha, married Reza, a Shia Muslim, originally from Iran, born in Pakistan and who moved to London. Both are working in Singapore now. What race is Natasha and what race would their children be?

I could talk about Ayub, my Indian Muslim buddy, and Alya Chew, his Chinese wife, or about my friend Tan Sri Bashir Ahmad and his Australian wife; about my cousin Shakeel and his Canadian wife; or his brothers Atique and the late Shamin and their Chinese wives; or my long-time friend Maniam @ Wong Joon San s/o Alagan, a Bahai from Muar, who married his Chinese sweetheart Jenny Tan, and who are staying in Hong Kong now.

What race are they? What colour are they? Who is the Malaysian? THEY ALL ARE.

One Malaysia, Bangsa Malaysia, Middle Malaysia – all these are slogans, designed, I believe, with ostensibly noble intentions. But as long as these slogans and intentions remain on billboards lining the highway from KLIA to Shah Alam; as long as they appear only in advertisements on television and in the newspapers; as long as they remain merely on our lips, we will not achieve anything.

Who among us does not want these dreams achieved? But if we want these dreams to come true, one Malaysia must be in our hearts, not only on our lips.

Graduating Students, respected audience

Barack Obama said people have a choice — they can either remain as bystanders and go on with their lives and let others talk about the world they want build or they can work towards building that world.

I have been inspired by many of Obama’s speeches. He said, of people who want change, that:

Throughout your life, you will face many challenges in seeking change; and there will be many periods when you will be at the crossroads, wondering whether it is worth your while; whether you should not just narrow your interests and get on with your own life than trying to be a crusader for the larger good.

“But I hope you’ll remember, during those times of doubt and frustration, that there is nothing naïve about your impulse to change the world. Because all it takes is one act of service - one blow against injustice - to send forth what Robert Kennedy called that ‘tiny ripple of hope’.  That’s what
changes the world.”

So never give up. Never allow disappointment to stop you in your tracks. You have to pick yourself up and go on. And if you do that, you will do well by yourself and by your country.

Graduating students of UTAR

My generation is fading into the twilight of our sunset years. It is now up to your generation, to transcend this challenge. And you will be doing so in a world that is as different from ours as night is from day.

The globalised, interdependent, interconnected era we live in today means that when you leave this hall and set forth on your journey of life, you will do so not as Malays, Chinese, Indians, Punjabis, Ibans or Kadazans. Perhaps not even as Malaysians. You will undertake the journey as GLOBAL citizens, competing and collaborating across communities and across borders. The IT revolution has placed in your hands the tools and the opportunities to fashion this world in line with your own ideals and hopes. The future is in your hands.

And now, having imparted those words of “wisdom”, allow me to relate an old Indian tale.

One evening an old Cherokee told his grandson about a battle that goes on inside people. He said: “My son, the battle is between two ‘wolves’ inside us all.

“One is Evil. It is anger, envy, jealousy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority, and ego.

“The other is Good. It is joy, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion and faith.”

The grandson thought about it for a minute and then asked his grandfather: “Which wolf wins?”

The old Cherokee replied: “The one you feed.”

As you leave this evening, and go on to a new life and new future, just ask yourself one question – which wolf will you feed?

Before I end my speech, let me come back to Martin Luther King’s dream. Something else that Dr King said perhaps bears context to our Malaysia today. He spoke about the lack of the spirit of human generosity in today’s world and I quote:

“When we look at modern man, we have to face the fact that modern man suffers from a kind of poverty of the spirit, which stands in glaring contrast with a scientific and technological abundance.

“We’ve learned to fly the air as birds, we’ve learned to swim the seas as fish, yet we haven’t learned to walk the Earth as brothers and sisters.”

So go out today and make the Malaysia that should be. It is in your hands how you want to shape our country.

God bless and thank you.

Saturday, May 26, 2012

A Women's Thinking for a happier life


Recently, in a large city in Australia ,
a poster featuring a young, thin and tan woman appeared in the window of a gym.
It said, "This summer,
do you want to be a mermaid or a whale?"

A middle-aged woman,
whose physical characteristics did not match those of the woman on the poster,
responded publicly to the question
posed by the gym.


To Whom It May Concern,
Whales are always surrounded by friends (dolphins, sea lions, curious humans.)
They have an active sex life,
get pregnant and have adorable baby whales.
They have a wonderful time with dolphins stuffing themselves with shrimp.
They play and swim in the seas,
seeing wonderful places like Patagonia ,
the Bering Sea
and the coral reefs of Polynesia .
Whales are wonderful singers
and have even recorded CDs.
They are incredible creatures
and virtually have no predators
other than humans.
They are loved, protected and admired
by almost everyone in the world.

Mermaids don't exist.
If they did exist,
they would be lining up outside the offices
of Argentinean psychoanalysts
due to identity crisis. Fish or human?
They don't have a sex life
because they kill men who get close to them, not to mention how could they have sex?
Just look at them ... where is IT?
Therefore, they don't have kids either.
Not to mention,
who wants to get close to a girl who smells
like a fish store?

The choice is perfectly clear to me:
I want to be a whale.

P.S. We are in an age
when media puts into our heads
the idea that only skinny people are beautiful, but I prefer to enjoy an ice cream with my kids, a good dinner with a man who makes me shiver, and a piece of chocolate with my friends.
With time, we gain weight
because we accumulate so much information and wisdom in our heads
that when there is no more room,
it distributes out to the rest of our bodies.
So we aren't heavy,
we are enormously cultured,
educated and happy.

Beginning today,
when I look at my butt in the mirror I will think, ¨Good grief, look how smart I am!¨


Monday, April 30, 2012

Attitude Determines Altitude


by Shah Saleem Faruqi – The Star 11 January 2012

An excerpt from the article written by the Emeritus Professor of Law at UiTM and Visiting Professor at USM.  
 
Nice one and inspiring too.  Happy reading.

Success is a matter of personal perception.  To some people, wealth, power, influence and status are the tests of having made it.  To others – success is to bring sunshine into the lives of others.  When you do that, some of that sunshine will illuminate your life as well. 

Whatever your concept of success is, its attainment is rooted in some conducive mental attitudes and a great deal of planned, hard work.

Visualising and envisioning: You must envision, constructively imagine and role-play whatever you wish to be.

Dreams are the foundation of reality.  If you can dream it, you can achieve it.  Any fulfillment is, of course, subject to your courage and discipline to act on your dreams and materialize them into concrete actions.  Kipling’s admonition must be remembered:  “If you can dream and not make dreams your master.  If you can think but not make thoughts your aim”.

Daily planning:  On a daily basis, plan your schedule. Fill every minute with 60 seconds of distance run.  Sail in a chartered course.  Do not drift in the wind and the waves.  

Act on, not just react to, things as they come.  Do not let others lead you by the nose.  Do not count on luck.  Luck is what happens when preparation meets opportunity.

Mapping the road ahead:   Careers are like ladders with many rungs.  Map out the steps.  Fix time frames.  Periodically review your progress towards your long-term goals.

Intensity:  There must be an intensity of commitment, a fire, a burning desire, an over-riding, if not single-minded, determination to attain your goals.

Ambition:  Think big.  Do not settle for too little.  Make plans to reach the sky.  If you land on the clouds, that’s OK.  Strive harder next time.

Faith in God:  When confronted by inevitable storms, trust God.  God does not burden any soul with more than it can bear.

Self-confidence:  We are all specks of dust in the universe.  This necessary humility can, however, go hand in hand with a self-confidence that everything is attainable if we strive hard enough.

We must doubt our doubts but not our beliefs.  We must remember that attitude, more than aptitude, determines our altitude.
 
Discipline and hard work:  Work is part of worship and must be given the same type of devotion.  Hard work compensates for lack of genius.   Many ordinary people achieve extraordinary things because they toil through the night while the world sleeps.  Genius is 10% inspiration; 90% perspiration.  A toiling tortoise can beat a heady hare.

Over the course of four decades, I have seen scores of extremely intelligent people fail in their endeavours because they lacked the humility that drives hard work;  the discipline and planning that ensures progress; and the courage and persistence that overcome odds.

In most challenges in life, natural talents do not take us very far.  Discipline does.

Passion:  Whatever you do , do well.  Let reason be the rudder and passion the sail.  There are no small jobs; only small people.   There is honour in every profession provided we put our heart and soul into it and do ordinary things extraordinarily well.

It is often the case that those who do small jobs meticulously are likely to confront major challenges majestically.

Do not wait for ideal conditions: Do not wait for the perfect time to start building on your dreams.  External conditions will never be ideal.  We have to make do with what we have.  The wind often changes for the better once we set sail.  It is our inner determination that makes the world stand aside to let pass a man who knows where he is going.

Show-case your talents:  At a place of work, substance and form, isih dan gaya, the ability to be relevant, as well as to seem competent, are all equally important.  Don’t be like the peacock that dances in the jungle but is not seen by anyone.

Find sophisticated and civilized ways to show-case your talents.  Polish up your communication and PR skills so that your hard work and competence will be known.

Rewards come in many ways:  It is natural to expect appreciation and recognition.  However, one must remember that in the workplace there are rivalries, jealousies and injustices.  As in the outside world, so in the workplace, justice does not usually prevail.  If the rewards do not come when they are due, remember that God is watching.  His justice will one day prevail.

Work never goes to waste.  A competent man is like the moon.  Clouds can hide the moon for a while but in the end the beams of light will break through and the world will be filled with their luminescence.  Remember also that hard work with sincerity is nourishing for the soul and good for health.  The rewards of hard work are long term, internal and intangible.  We all know that of all the things that matter in life, most are not things.

Success and failure:  Success is never final.  It is a journey, not a destination.  It is a continuing process of repeating , reinforcing past accomplishments and conquering new challenges by adapting to a changed world.  Success is sustained effort over time and persistence in the face of hurdles.  It is an attitude of “I think I can”.  It is the courage to treat adversity as an opportunity.  It is the willingness to regard every dare as a door.

Falling down does not amount to failure.  Failure is to stay down.  Falling down is never fatal.  Life breaks all of us.  The thing to do is to learn from our failings and to emerge stronger where we’re broken.

Happiness:  To seek inner peace, live simply.  Richness is not the accumulation of wealth but the smallness of needs.  Think deeply.  Act nobly.  Leave the world a better place than you found it.  Learn from people you admire.

“Lives of great men all remind us:  we can make our lives sublime and departing leave behind us, footprints on the sands of time.”

Monday, April 5, 2010

Taking charge of your career

* Pick a company where you can build a broad range of skills.

* Look for your employer's toughest problems, and make yourself part of the solutions.

* Learn how to work in teams.

* Build a network of contacts, inside and outside your company.

* Keep your eyes open for opportunities elsewhere.

Wednesday, September 30, 2009

The Word on Genius

Curious to know what others have said about genius and madness? Check out these quotable quips.

"Genius is 1% inspiration and 99% perspiration."
- Thomas Edison, US inventor of the motion-picture projector, phonograph, electric-light bulb and 1,090 other inventions.

"No great genius is without a mixture of madness."
- Aristotle, an ancient Greek philosopher dubbed one of the greatest thinkers of all time. His work was the foundation for western science and philosophy for over 100 years.

"You're only given a little spark of madness. You mustn't lose it."
- Robin Williams, US comedian and actor famous for this improvisation and roles like the genie in Disney's Aladdin.

"About half my designs are controlled fantasy, 15% are total madness and the rest are bread-and-butter designs."
- Manolo Blahnik, Spanish fashion designer famous for creating high fashion and very expensive shoes.

"Neither a lofty degree of intelligence nor imagination nor both together go to making of genius. Love, love, love - that is the soul of genius."
- Wolfgang Amadeus Mozart, Austrian composer considered the greatest musical genius of all time.

"Insanity is doing the same thing in the same way and expecting a different outcome."
- Old Chinese proverb.

"Madness is to think of too many things in succession too fast, or of one thing too exclusively."
- Voltaire, philosopher and playwright considered one of the greatest French artist.

Wednesday, June 3, 2009

Setting Up Goals

By Jean Baer

Many people work incredibly hard but feel they're getting nowhere. The reason is they're trying to do too many things at one time. The key to achieving career success is to set goals.

Says Dr Herbert Fensterheim, clinical professor, Cornell University Medical College, "Having goals helps you to separate the important from the trivial so that you can make decisions about where to expend time and energy. Long-term goals give you a feeling of movement through life. Sub-goals provide a sense of accomplishment."

How do you set up a goal programme that gets you where you want to go? The following pointers may help.

1. Define your goals
In doing this, ask yourself some of the same questions that industrial psychologists use to develop achievement motivation. What are your goals? How can you accomplish them? How do you deal with the obstacles?

2. Concentrate on sub-goals
According to the late Dr Norman R.F. Maier, professor emeritius of psychology at the University of Michigan, "Ask yourself what you want out of life. Then divide your life into sub-goals." That means "What do I want to accomplish today?" For instance, your long-range goal is to get a marketing job. But this involves many sub-goals. You might want to keep a graph in which you record performance of such sub-goals as "let your boss know of your intentions" or "speak to someone currently in that position". Be sure to mark your chart when you perform an act. Remember, sub-goals provide encouragement.

3. Make it easier for yourself to get started
Once you have formulated your goals, write them down. Make your list specific and concrete. Don't use vague generalities like "I will stop procrastinating.." "not to be late any more.." "be more organised". Instead, if your goal is to be on time at work, be very exact: "I will be at my deskat the office no later than 9". Warning: do not think you're wonderful just because you've written down your intention. Move on to the next step of action or you just become a master at writing intentions. You should break goals into specific acts.

4. Set priorities
Pace yourself - at such and such an hour, you'll do certain things. When you have to do something really important, try to defer everything else until the next day. Do the deadline chore first.

5. Understand your limitations
Talent and age obviously affect your goals. At 40, you can learn to play tennis, but you'll never be like Chris Evert.

6. Set up your own system of reinforcement.
One harassed working woman says, "If I have given my all to my job for four and a half days, I take Friday afternoon off. I stay on the premises of my job but essentially I quit work. I get my hair done at lunch time, write personal letters and make personal phone calls in the afternoon and sometimes just stare at the wall and think". You can give rewards to yourself (always keep in mind the perception: If I don't meet the goal, I don't get the reward) or you can get them from others.

Monday, April 13, 2009

What should I do to marry a rich guy

A young and pretty lady posted this on a popular forum:

I'm going to be honest of what I'm going to say here. I'm 25 this year. I'm very pretty, have style and good taste. I wish to marry a guy with $500k annual salary or above. You might say that I'm greedy, but an annual salary of $1M is considered only as middle class in New York. My reguirement is not high.

Is there anyone in this forum who has an income of $500k annual salary? Are you all married? I wanted to ask: what should I do to marry rich persons like you? Among those I've dated, the richest is $250k annual income, and it seems that this is my upper limit. If someone is going to move into high cost residential area on the west of New York City Garden (?), $250k annual income is not enough. I'm here humbly to ask a few questions:

1) Where do most rich bachelors hang out? (Please list down the names and addresses of bars, restaurant, gym)
2) Which age group should I target?
3) Why most wives of the riches is only average-looking? I've met a few girls who doesn't have looks and are not interesting, but they are able to marry rich guys
4) How do you decide who can be your wife, and who can ony be your girlfriend? (my target now is to get married)

Ms Pretty

Awesome reply:

Dear Ms Pretty,

I have read you post with great interest. Guess there are lots of girls out there who have similar questions like yours. Please allow me to analyse your situation as professional investor. My annual income is more than $500k, which meets your requirement, so I hope everyone believes that I'm not wasting time here.

From the standpoint of a business person, it is bad decision to marry you. The answer is very simple, so let me explain. Put the details aside, what you're trying to do is an exchange of "beauty" and "money". Person A provide beauty, and Person B pays for it, fair and square. However, there's a deadly problem here, your beauty will fade, but my money will not be gone without any good reason. The fact is , my income might increase from year to year, but you can't be prettier year after year. Hence from the viewpoint of economics, I am an appreciation asset, and you are a depreciation asset. It's not just normal depreciation, but exponential depreciation. If that is your only asset, your value will be much worried 10 years later.

By the terms we use in Wall Street, every trading has a position, dating with you is also a "trading position". If the trade value dropped, we will sell it and it is not a good idea to keep it for long term - same goes with the marriage that you wanted. It might be cruel to say this, but in order to make a wiser decision, any assets with great depreciation value will be sold or "leased". Anyone with over $500k annual income is not a fool; we would only date you, but will not marry you.

I would advice that you forget looking for any clues to marry a rich guy. And by the way, you could make yourself to become a rich person with $500k annual income. This has better chance than finding a rich fool.

Hope this reply helps. If you are interested in "leasing" services, do contact me....

signed,
J.P. Morgan